The True Meaning of Christmas
Here we go again. Another year, turning toward light. The Holy days of Christ Consciousness, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa (and perhaps more that I even know about).
I grew up Catholic and since I did, during this time, there were Christmas trees and presents, the 3 wise man, Mother Mary and Jesus. Every year as a child, I grew up with praises such as “Christ is born!” “Hallelujah!”
Even though, I have become much more present to the absurdity of how Christmas is treated, as a time to mass consume things we may or may not need, placing our identity in what we have (or have not); I am grateful for this time to celebrate and to give.
I am especially grateful to notice, as I get older, I have more inner peace than I have had, especially since childhood. Even still, I want to acknowledge those painful emotions- sadness, grief, anger…the whole gamut of emotions still affect me at times and I know I am not alone. For many of us sensitive souls, this time of year is often fraught with painful memories and emotions, heart-ache and anguish. During this time, thoughts can easily take over, causing us to succumb to our addictive habits, avoiding relationships, and settling into defense and attack. I know what it’s like…our most painful beliefs about ourselves- of being alone, unloved, abandoned, rejected, betrayed… all can come up during this time in one big swoop.
Perhaps, it is in those painful parts of ourselves, the parts we might rather hide or deny, cast off or drown out, for which Christmas time was made. Perhaps, also, it is in our experiences for which the true meaning of Christ-mas is born; it is a cry, a bellow from the Heavens to let Christ awaken in us, to declare us to take inventory for our mistakes, where we have intentionally hurt, been revengeful, or simply broke our word…to make an appeal to forgive and to love anyway, to choose again.
Yes, I will choose to believe that this is how Christ Consciousness lives in us all and that this is what the true meaning of Christmas is about.
May we access that Christ Consciousness that is in us to will the way to peace. <3
Why Release from Sexual Repression is so important to me?
One of my passions right now is to bring awareness to the importance of sexual healing and what that means. For me, sexual healing is a lot about release from sexual shame and repression and its this very shame and repression that creates the very things we don’t want people to do. Why do I care about this issue so much? As an empath, I took on sexual shame around me and I have loved people who have repressed their sexuality. Sexual repression has impacted me deeply throughout my life and I know that it effects how we all relate to one another and how we feel about ourselves. I am aware of the paralysis, the insecurity and the limiting beliefs that come when we don’t make room for people to have sexual thoughts, fantasies or desires. I perceive that the result of sexual repression creates much of the world’s struggles- abuse, neglect, codependency, depression…the list goes on.
Throughout time, it is clear to me that we have been misled into believing that blame and shame are the ways to change behaviors we don’t like; sexual repression is a result of this.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect. I struggled with this for a long time and I still do to some extent.
A part of me does not want to believe that forgiveness, love and acceptance are the most healing and correct ways to end sexual repression.
But I believe it is. Being blamed and shamed and suppressing my emotions did not make me a better person; it was something else.
How about you?
Has anyone blaming or shaming you, truly helped you to resolve your inner conflicts, fears or desires?
Through my experience, perspective and observation:
In order to end sexual repression, we must embrace our sexuality as a vehicle for consciousness. We must be able to explore what is underneith our sexual thoughts, desires and fears, without judgment and with complete love, forgiveness and acceptance. We must do so with the desire to learn and to grow.
Perhaps there was a time in history, some call it the Golden Age, where people were enlightening; they were wise, caring and loving. No, sex was not their focus, nor their aim or goal of life; rather it was heart, love and consciousness. For those whom were misled, confused or simply curious, people had compassion, capacity, tolerance and love. Instead of encouraging sexual suppression, sex and sexuality was honored for what it was. People were given outlets to explore their fantasies, to accept their desires and fears as a tool for becoming more conscious. Through this honoring, sex and sexuality was redeemed. Sex and sexuality became a place to grow in consciousness, to cultivate our most vital energies, to build stamina, to embrace love and to celebrate our Oneness with the Divine in each other. Neither a weapon, nor a threat, sex was a marriage, a caldron of friendship, healing, and merging. For many, sex and sexuality was the well-spring from which all creativity flowed.
Emotionally Abusive Relationships
Many people are in emotionally abusive relationships.
They do not think that they can do better perhaps. Or they feel stuck in the relationship because of finances or children may be…
Abusers are abusive out of habit, fear, shame and miseducation of how to be a human being..
This blog is for those who have been emotionally abused or are currently in an emotionally, abusive relationship.
First, being in an emotionally abusive relationship can be confusing. What does it mean to be in an emotionally abusive relationship?
An emotionally abusive relationship is a relationship that uses verbal and/or nonverbal tactics to manipulate or corrode a person’s ability to see who they really are.
Who we all really are is love; their is a light at the end of every tunnel and it is the essence of our being. Love is our inherent nature; it is wise, caring, forgiving and loving. An emotionally abusive relationship is one that is full of limits. Its the kind of relationship that makes us feel small, little, traumatized, helpless, dependent and wounded.
Many times, emotionally abusive relationships use both love and kindness; they reward behaviors that they themselves like or approve of. However, at the flick of a switch, emotionally abusive relationships use fear tactics when the other does behavior that they don’t like or approve of.
Emotionally abusive relationships can be confusing because they can offer us as many good feeling emotions as they can ill feeling ones. Many times, the emotional abusers appear as both a savior- the balm for our pain- as well as the potential impetus of our affliction.
Of course, given this definition of what it means to be in an emotionally-abusive relationship, one may feel ashamed or disheartened.
Very often, we find that the source of being emotionally abused is really inside ourselves. We recognize that we may have instigated attacks made at ourselves and that we put other people down too; oftentimes, we weren’t even aware that we were being emotionally abusive with our excessive negativity, fear, doubt and worrisome thoughts and words.
As a kid growing up, I carried the burden of the judgmental thoughts, harsh words and the critical voice of emotional abusers around me for years. I would never think of myself as being an emotional abuser; however I remember times of subtly putting people down, allowing negativity, fear, and self-doubt run-off and seep out to others.
When I went away to college, I started to have new doors open up to me and I started to really love myself. Even more true was that I began to be exposed to more health-conscious, positive, empowering people.
That was over 15 years ago.
Now, while this journey of Self-love is like One big wave and I still got work to do on myself, the voice of emotional abusers no longer effect me as they used to.
They do not hook me into believing who I’m not, leaving me much more defenseless and curious.
I give thanks for that.
What are you grateful for?
I can be with your disappointment
I know you may not like it
but I can be with your disappointment of me
I can be with your disapproval, your cynicism, your judgment, your fear…
God alone takes these lies and stirs them into a concoction of good medicine
Your disappointment I can be with…
Compromise I can not any longer
Let me listen and do my best
I ask only for God to be in the picture…